11 year old crying hysterically? Is there anything I can do?

Father who has lived in another country for 10 yrs and could only afford to see his kids about 2xs a year and call about 1x weekly finally gets them to the USA. He works about 18 hrs per day however. Occasionally takes them with him to work where he is self-employed as a limo driver. Yes it’s a dangerous job and as the step mother I don’t agree with him taking them with him but he never consults me and would cuss me out if I gave my input. This am he promises the youngest, age 11/only girl that she can go with him today for the first time in 2 months. She can’t find the shoes she wants to wear in time. The father must leave to get a well paying customer. Stepmother tries to help and promises child she will take her to the father’s job herself in a few minutes. Child is inconsolable, doesn’t answer any questions (what shoes did you want to wear? Would you please sit up?) and cries hysterically. What to do?